Breaking my usual rule and not reading the whole thread first, 'cos
WTF!i'm 14.
yeah, i know young.
I've never had a girlfriend until now.
You're doing fine - don't worry about trying to conform to norms which are probably meaningless. I didn't get my first girlfriend until I was 21 (and that was because I was set up - but I won't go into that now). Didn't stop me having a great life, children, grandchildren, interests, conversation...
what do you do with a girlfriend in 9th grade?
How about:
talk to her (for real), and that way you'll find out; if not, then maybe she's not a girlfriend after all.
Paul
PS - and BTW, saying you know about writing properly and just aren't bothering is kind-of insulting to your readers, don't you see?