Nobo - how did you do it?
I don't even know what to tell you because everything worked out better than I could have ever hoped for.
When I started college I was still with my high school girlfriend. By then we had been dating for roughly a year. Stacey and I lived in the same dorm our freshmen years so we ran into each other within the first month. From the first time I saw her I was completely and utterly smitten. I didn't even want a relationship, I just wanted to be around her and to be her friend. She had a smile that lit up the room and she was the most genuinely nice and caring person I have ever met. We had a class together so we would spend time studying, and then late nights up talking over instant messenger. Over a few weeks we had a really close friendship. There was no pressure there because I had a gf and that made me off limits to her, and her off limits to me.
A quick sidenote about high school gf. I had a crush on her since 7th grade or so, and as a result the relationship was very one sided. I completely changed my image and group of friends for her, and she pretty much got whatever she wanted out of me. I even took her back after she cheated on me. So there was (and still is) a lot of resentment built up over how I let myself be treated by her. But anyway...
So as my friendship with Stace grew, my relationship with hs gf (who went to college 2 hours away) crumbled. I didn't feel like taking the train to see her... when I did all I could think about was Stacey... etc. While hanging out late one night Stace let it slip that she liked me. So I was stuck having to choose between a girl that regularly fought with me on the phone for 2-3 hours at a time, or someone that I really enjoyed being with. It wasn't a difficult choice. So that was the 24th of November, 2002.
The relationship itself has been fairly smooth. I think the fact that it was built on friendship and respect is a huge key. We were on the same campus for 4 years in college, then only 1 hour away when we were in grad school, now we're separated by a 5 hour flight while I work in NC while she finishes school in MI. I think the fact that we both go out of our ways to do small things to make the other person feel special, aka a good morning text, a goodnight phone call, a surprise in the mail, and occasional visits make the distance easier to deal with. And thats what we were like when we lived together as well.
Thats probably more than you wanted to know, but if a guy like me (loud, abrasive, polish, meathead, frat boy) can get an amazing girl, you guys (and girls) shouldn't have a problem
I've told you this before Norbert, but I'm so so happy for you!
Yes you have, and it means a lot. Having a great gf along with great buddies/e-buddies makes me a pretty happy guy.
