What I'm trying to figure out is whether this is pathological jealousy in Marigold or something really going on with Dale and Emily. Pathological jealousy can be a nasty pervasive condition that's hard to treat or control, and isn't fixed by 'going away and growing up' if it's real and chronic.
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Pathological jealousy, also known as Morbid jealousy, Othello syndrome or delusional jealousy, is a psychological disorder in which a person is preoccupied with the thought that their spouse or sexual partner is being unfaithful without having any real proof, along with socially unacceptable or abnormal behaviour related to these thoughts. The most common cited forms of psychopathology in morbid jealousy are delusions and obsessions. It is considered a subtype of delusional disorder.
Some symptoms of pathological jealousy include:[citation needed]
Accusing partner of looking or giving attention to other people.
Questioning of the partner's behavior.
Interrogation of phone calls, including wrong numbers or accidental phone calls, and all other forms of communication.
Not allowing any social media accounts, Facebook, Twitter etc.
Going through the partner’s belongings.
Always asking where the partner is and who they are with.
Isolating partner from their family and friends.
Not letting the partner have personal interests or hobbies outside the house.
Controlling the partner's social circle.
Claiming the partner is having an affair when they withdraw or tries to escape abuse.
Accusing the partner of holding affairs when the marriage's sexual activity stops because of the abuse.
Verbal and/or physical violence towards the partner, the individual who is considered to be the rival, or both.
Blaming the partner and establishing an excuse for jealous behavior.
Denying the jealous behavior unless cornered.
Threatening to harm others or themselves.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pathological_jealousy
Hmmmmmh ... IDK, 'delusional' is not the first word I'd associate with Marbear.
No mental health expert, not a recommendation for people with actual mental health trouble!!! -> When you know something is wrong, GET! HELP!X is functional and safe to those around her. X has deficits in her contact with reality. She is by her own assessment weird, but we must avoid pathologizing weirdness.
I think that when considering possible symptoms of mental disorders of fictional characters, it would be good to keep in mind the
clinical significance criterion for what constitutes a mental disorder, first introduced in version IV of the
"Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders":
"causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning".
"
Significant distress or impairment", k?
Generally speaking: My (!)
impression (!!) is that many people who have little personal experience with mental health problems tend to underestimate the
scale of symptoms in an actual sufferer as compared to what an ordinary healthy person experiences in their daily lives. Again:
"(Clinically) significant distress or impairment" A lot of the most common mental health stuff isn't thinking you're the second coming of Christ, or that you can fly or whatnot (though ... there's people to whom that happens, too) - it's more about the way rather ordinary thoughts and emotions are
processed. So when Joe Everyman browses through a list of clinical symptoms of most any disorder (except the really heavy psychiatric ones), he
will find things that look superficially like stuff he experiences in his daily lives - the difference is in the
scale and the
degree of impairment to their lives.
Example OCD: Everybody experiences
Obsession and
Compulsion. Those are normal human experiences. The difference is in the "
Disorder" - meaning the symptoms are on a scale that they seriously impair your personal and/or professional life.
- Going back once to check whether the door is locked & the oven turned off, muttering "This is silly, I know I locked the door"? -> Most everybody has experienced that once or twice in their lives.
- Leaving your friends waiting in the car for half an hour while you're racing through the house to check every door and window for the third time, with tears of shame and despair in your eyes? -> OCD.
Yes, the latter actually happened to someone diagnosed with OCD -> me. I was 16. It felt like
"watching myself go insane, in full possession of all my mental faculties" (Note: OCD is ego-dystonous. Means it "feels wrong". Not all disorders are like that.). It was extremely scary.
Personal opinion: Guys, it's a very big step to seek help for mental health trouble. This "pathologizing rather innocuous behaviour of fictional characters" ... I don't think it's helping.