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Weirdest Ending of A Relationship?
allison:
I was in a messy pseudo-relationship with a guy 8 years my senior (we will call him D!) - who happened to have a girlfriend that I was unaware of. I'd known him for a few years, and I'd refused his advances (the age difference, we didn't know each other well) until finally I said fine, let's go out. We dated (as in, went on dates) for a few months; everything was amazing. I was over the moon for D and he seemed to be just as fond of me.
One bright morning I woke to find an email waiting for me...from a girl who had this to say: "Hey bitch, I know about you and my boyfriend, f---ing whore." Needless to say I was a little shocked. I called him and said, "Hi D, I know you're at work but maybe you could give me a shout on your break? Your girlfriend really isn't happy with me."
They broke up, and he and I continued to see each other - what an awful decision on my part, right? Well, like I said, I was smitten. It was hard for us to spend time together, as he worked nights and I went to school and had a part time job. We managed to find a few hours here and there. (Canadian) Thanksgiving weekend he was supposed to come spend a night with me but he called and bailed the day before. I was very very angry, and spent the Saturday alone...and then he showed up on my doorstep at 11:30 on Sunday night.
We spent all night talking about what we were. We broke up, because it just wasn't working - the time for us to be together was just not there and he was scared he was going to break my heart. Obviously then we slept together (my first time...) and he left in the early morning. I was okay with it, it was best if we were over.
Until he called me a few days later wanting to see me, and I said "But I thought we were done?" However according to him, nothing about that night meant we were over at all. We continued spending almost no time together and exchanging messages and phone calls talking about how absolutely wonderful the other person was. I got bored of it though, and when I met a guy my age who was geeky, cute and totally into me, I started seeing him.
This new relationship turned out to be pretty lasting...and D and I just stopped. We just stopped finding time to see one another, messages got fewer and further between...there was no fight, no real ending, we simply disappeared out of each others' lives. It's still the strangest thing to me - and he was right, he did break my heart.
tl;dr: I fell in love with a guy 8 years older than me, we dated, I lost my v-card to him and never saw him again.
Patrick:
A week after my first-ever "girlfriend" thing began, after several instances of getting in trouble at work from her calling me ALL THE FUCKING TIME, she decided I wasn't pampering her enough, and that my D&D friends were too nerdy for her to allow me to keep hanging out with them. I pretty much was like "Fuck you, at least my friends are nice people who don't center their lives around cocaine and meth like yours do." That was a pretty clear 'it's over' message and I never talked to her civilly again, even when she came in to my work as a customer.
I found out a couple months later that her grandma had finally gotten tired of her shit and shipped her off to a military academy. As the story goes, the gym teacher was like "I miss Jordan, what about you guys?" and got crickets. Good riddance, the giggling cunt.
tania:
my thoughts on selfishness are pretty similar to how evolution theorists also view it, as something that's completely inherent and underlies just about everything people do. it's something people don't want to think about because for some reason or another this has become a really negative word, but it makes complete sense to me to think that human beings pretty wouldn't do anything at all if it didn't benefit them in some way because those behaviors are the only ones that could understandably be passed on from generation to generation. i think the trick is that we've learned to completely and unquestioningly rationalize 99% of the selfish things we do and ascribe to them motivations other than selfish ones so as to allow those behaviors to continue to exist. it's so automatic we don't even realize we're doing it. like, i don't help my friends when they're upset because i want to avoid feeling terrible and guilty, i help them because they need it. i don't volunteer because it makes me feel like a good person and increases my sense of self-importance, i volunteer because i genuinely want to give my time to others. and so on.
i try not to think about it not just for the reason that it bums me out but because knowing the reasons why people do what they do won't change the actual behavior itself, so why bother worrying about it? in the end we've all developed a whole bunch of ultimately functional behaviors which is to me the important part, not the means by which they developed.
0bsessions:
--- Quote from: Scandanavian War Machine on 19 Nov 2008, 14:55 ---
--- Quote from: TwistedRemedy on 19 Nov 2008, 14:51 ---I'm dating his best friend.
--- End quote ---
wow, you're a bitch
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As a few people have noted, this largely depends on the circumstance of the breakup. When my first serious girlfriend and I broke up, I started seeing her best friend like a week later. This was all kinds of fucked up in a lot of ways I won't get into, but I'd say it was fair since I was the one that was dumped. If you dump someone, you pretty much have zero license to be offended by anyone they choose to date following you.
LiterSize:
She turned into Voltron. Robot ladybits = chafing!
On a thread applicable note, one girl I dated went out to dinner with me, invited me up to her apt., and then either talked around me to her roommate, watched youtube videos for about an hour while I was on the other side of the room, and basically forgot/ignored the fact I was there. I left her apt. incensed and figured we were done. 2 weeks later I get an e-mail from her with an apology that she's spineless and a coward. wtf...?
thankfully, it was only a couple weeks we'd been seeing each other that whole time. Not to worry! I have since found myself in a better place.
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