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supersheep:
There is a difference between a 21/22 year old bangin' a 24/25 year old and a 21 year old bangin' a 16 year old. Or a 25 year old bangin' a 16 year old. I have no problem with ladies a coupla years older than me, but I probably would feel odd doing the same thing with girls the same number of year younger than me.

Darkbluerabbit:
I think age difference has more to do with where you are in your life than the number of years you have lived.  I dated a guy almost four years older than me when I was a freshman in college, and while we had a lot in common, it was also weird that he had a full time job and responsibilities while I was just getting used to being out of my parents' house.  I felt too childish to be dating him which was one of the reasons it didn't work out.  Two years later I started dating someone also four years older than me, and though I am still in college, I had grown up a lot and the age difference didn't matter much anymore.  The older you are, the less age difference matters, which is why I can't help but think that twenty-somethingsl dating high schoolers is kind of creepy.  Unless it's a few years at most and the high schooler is really mature, it's probably not going to be a healthy relationship just because similar maturity levels are so important.

Alex C:
I don't think most older guys who go out with high schoolers are intentionally manipulative. I do, however, tend to think they're often a bit socially retarded since western society pressures adults not to date high schoolers, and thus you end up with a pool of guys which contains an inordinate amount of people who are willing to ignore what other people think. That can be a sign of confidence and independence, but it can also be a sign that the guy is selfish and cares more about immediate gratification than consequences. Unfortunately, most high school girls find the guys from the latter category, since the responsible, confident guys have usually already found a nice age appropriate lady to get involved with.

Anyway, yeah, I don't think age matters nearly so much once the person is out of school and independent. I've met cute high schoolers before, but they never really show up on my radar, so to speak. There's simply too many good reasons not to go there. Much like sex, it's not necessarily immoral in and of itself, per se, but that is not enough to say it is a good idea. Any time you're not really thinking of what's in the best interest of the other person in the relationship, you're on thin ice, particularly if the relationship is sexually active.

jhocking:

--- Quote from: tania on 02 Jan 2009, 13:32 ---i find older guys dating much younger girls sleazy... and i know i should try to be more open minded about it, as i know a few people who are in relationships with massive age differences that are genuinely happy together

--- End quote ---

I was talking to someone recently who is in her late twenties who was saying she just changed her age range on some internet dating site to 40. That gave me the jibblies.

Barmymoo:
I've been crazy about a guy who is almost ten years older than me since I was seven, but I'm aware that it would be weird if we dated (and we won't, because he is not interested in me and thinks I'm too young for him). I'm fairly certain, however, that I'd frown on someone who was 26 and dating a 17 year old, so I am just a hypocrite.

I've dated a guy who was two years younger than me and that didn't work because we were both still in school, but it would have worked outside of school (and did work when we were on holiday together, away from stereotypes and criticism). Then again the gap was fairly small and it was only the school system that split us into two different "age groups".

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