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Weirdest Ending of A Relationship?
Ballard:
You got broken up with on your birthday?
Shit, that's awful.
Cartilage Head:
I have recently been broken up with for reasons that are probably never going to be made clear to me.
glyphic:
I had a high school girlfriend who I tried to continue dating when we went to college. We were together for years. Lost our virginity together, blah blah blah. We went to separate colleges and neither of us had cars. We would still meet up on weekends when we could, blah blah blah. Fast forward two months:
She got engaged to the guy she was apparently cheating on me with.
Yeah. Yeah.
They're still married. Unhappily, I hear.
onewheelwizzard:
I just got broken up with a couple days ago ... it wasn't too weird, I guess. We're still very much friends, but being together put a fair amount of strain on her (I am exceptionally bad at a couple things that she's exceptionally sensitive to) so she needed to step back a bit. Basically the issue was that when we were together she'd get really upset at me about things that we both agree are (a) fairly petty and ultimately not worth a whole lot of her anger and (b) inexcusably, aggravatingly simple and should ultimately be really easy for me to avoid. Since she can't seem to not get angry at these things, and I can't seem to change them, and we both recognize what's going on, it only makes sense not to put too much strain on ourselves for the sake of staying together. The way I tell the story, it was only her needlessly being upset that caused me trouble, and the way she tells it, it was only my failure to do what should've been simple that caused her trouble ... so knowing each others' stories, keeping the relationship going would've been a poor plan.
Now I just want some sex. I know guys often feel like they need to avoid being "the guy who just wants sex" but sometimes it's just true. It's not that I don't care who I fuck, I definitely don't want to have sex with someone I don't care about, but as someone who knows several people who I care about a great deal and who I am quite attracted to, I also have to be clear with those people (if the issue of a sexual relationship comes up) that prioritizing "sex with someone I care about" is only what it is and nothing more.
Ballard:
Reading your posts reinforces a lot of what I've come to realize on my own lately. I've made too many mistakes catering to others out of a false sense of martyrdom and absolutely no good has come out of it in the long term. The minute I started putting my health and happiness above that of others is the minute I stopped unfairly demanding things of my friends and acquaintances to make up for the deficiencies that I brought upon myself. I no longer feel lonely or emotionally unsatisfied/unrewarded (as much) and I've been able to grow into a person who is happy to work on himself rather than be envious of others. I no longer feel inadequate because I am not the person I look up to. Instead, I realize that every person is an individual just like I am, admit that I am never going to be them, and instead see positive qualities which I could learn from.
Basically what I am trying to say is dude you're awesome.
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