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Weirdest Ending of A Relationship?
onewheelwizzard:
--- Quote from: Ballard on 06 Jan 2009, 18:15 ---The minute I started putting my health and happiness above that of others is the minute I stopped unfairly demanding things of my friends and acquaintances to make up for the deficiencies that I brought upon myself.
--- End quote ---
BAM ::image of Wayne Coyne high-fiving the Dalai Lama::
Fuck, that felt good to hear.
Ballard:
You know what's funny? I think preaching what you want to practice helps you truly believe it.
A lot of my new found confidence was mostly theoretical until I started giving advice to slightly younger friends and it worked for them. It took a lot of self-determination to not just say "I am lying to make myself feel better! All of this is a pipe dream and I'm doomed to be lame 'cause I wasn't born one of the cool people."
In the same way, you're probably working your ass off to convince yourself of all the stuff you post here on the subject, and writing it down is a form of self-therapy that helps you define your beliefs with a clear mind.
Correct me if I'm totally wrong.
onewheelwizzard:
I totally know where you're coming from ... I don't really act like I believe a lot of the stuff I say until I start saying it to more and more people. Sometimes I tell myself it's because the drive to "practice what I preach" is great enough that just vocalizing it is enough to motivate me, sometimes I tell myself it's because every time I say stuff I'm talking to someone different and I have to come up with a new way of saying it (which requires coming up with a new way to think about it and therefore develops my understanding of my own beliefs), sometimes I tell myself it's because acting like I know what I'm talking about is the only way to actually get there. I don't know or care if there's more or less truth to any of these, because the fact is that it works! If I actually verbally talk to people about the stuff that I care about in my life, and the changes I'm trying to make in it, those changes happen faster and more smoothly and it makes more sense to me to care about those things.
I don't consider my posting here to be self-therapy, because that would imply that there's something I really want to change in myself. Right now I'm really comfortable with who I am. This forum, for me, is a place for me to kick around ideas that appeal to me and see how much they make sense and where it might take me if I were to implement them further in my life. Once my attention is caught on something (like the idea of a demurrage-based money system, or the idea of being more self-serving in personal relationships, or the idea of going out of your way to be as transparent as possible to the people around you, all things that I've debated at length in the DISCUSS forum), this is a great place for me to play with it and figure out where it leads and what I'll run up against if I really take it to heart and make it a permanent (or at least long-term) part of myself. It's not that I'm trying to convince myself that anything I say here is true, it's that I'm trying to figure out what will happen if I do convince myself of these things, what I'll be sacrificing by doing so, and how it'll benefit me.
DonInKansas:
I caught my ex-girlfriend cheating on me with her ex. I knocked on the door of her house after seeing his truck in her driveway and she answered the door in his t-shirt and nothing else.
After briefly considering retrieving the softball bat in my trunk and battering him with it, I thought better of it and left after some choice words.
Unfortunately, I had forgotten I left my CD case in her car--It had 350ish CDs in it.
She was so pissed that she got caught that she took a hammer to each and every one of my CDs. Then dropped off the garbage bag on my porch the next day.
Classy. I guess that's what I get for dating a stripper.....:p
God that was a long time ago, thinking back.
onewheelwizzard:
What exactly was she pissed about? That you'd yelled at her over cheating on you?
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