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elizaknowswhatshesfor:
Duchess, you post made me phone my boyfriend to tel him he is awesome & I love him.

I also had a little tear.

Both of these are good things, thankyou x

Emaline:
Dear Relationship advice thread,

I know we've had some beef in the past, but now I need some of your advice. You see, I am currently dating this dude who is pretty good friends with his ex. Ex-fiance that is.And in general, this is all fine and dandy. I've pretty much have had no problems with her in the past. But as our relationship has grown more serious, (which I mean, when I first met her, he are I were already pretty serious. It's just that lately I've been basically living with him, whereas before I was only with him like every third day or so) she has become more needy. Long story short: She left him for another dude, and with a metric shit ton of debt, as in roughly $600 a month in credit card bills. When he and I were just friends I basically encouraged him to completely get rid of her, and shut her out of his life, but now that we are dating I understand their connection a bit more, and if he wants her in his life then that is fine by me. In general, I have no problem with them hanging out. I trust him. I know he won't cheat on me, so that is not even a concern. However, I am concerned with how fucking absolutely needy she is. Basically, she doesn't have a job. And won't get a job. His dad works at a local fast food place and has offered her a job washing dishes, but she refuses it. So instead of working for a living she is constantly asking him for money, and to buy things for her. It's ridiculous. She constantly needs him to do this and that for her, and she can't fucking be fucking independent and her own person and its starting to get really annoying.

Recently, she has started calling and texting him whenever we are hanging out so basically our time spent together is spent with him on the phone with her. And if he tries to get off the phone she gets all offended. She has even started saying that she feels like he is abandoning her, and that he needs to spend time with her, and that she doesn't like being #2 in his life. WTF. I am his girlfriend. Of course I am going to be #1. God fucking damn it. So she is whining that it isn't fair, but god damn it, it fucking is. He is my boyfriend. She fucked up her chance with him. She needs to get over it.


So relationship advice thread, what do I dooooo?

nobo:
This girl sounds like a leech. Your bf is already paying her credit card bills, and he shouldn't even be doing that. Ideally he would cut her out of his life completely. I don't know how long you've been together, but you should throw down the "its me or her" card, otherwise this girl will always be around and constantly fucking with your relationship. You'll just end up bitter towards your bf that he allows her to use him as a doormatt if this continues.

Emaline:
He's not paying her credit card bills. He is paying for his cards that she charged on. Once they got in a huge fight because he gave her like $8 to put in her bank so she wouldn't overdraft, and because she is too lazy she didn't do it, and she overdrew, and this lead to him having a panic attack because she fucked up his credit so bad that he think he'll never be able to get a new car(because his current is beat up. because he got in an accident on the first date with yours truly), and that he'll never be able to buy a house, etc etc.

And I don't want to be all one or the other at him, because I understand their friends and if it wasn't for her being a leech and a failure at being an adult and a functioning member of society, she'd be an alright person. It's like basically, I really want to encourage him to talk to her about how she needs to get her life together, or that to get the fuck out of his, because she isn't doing anyone any favors the way she is now. I've been tempted to tell him not to talk to her until she gets a job.

chowburger:

--- Quote from: Emaline on 16 Aug 2009, 18:06 ---if it wasn't for her being a leech and a failure at being an adult and a functioning member of society, she'd be an alright person.

--- End quote ---

That's a pretty big 'if', and unless you can seriously see her changing, then I'd agree that cutting her out entirely would be ideal. Or at least cutting her off financially — you say that she keeps asking for money, and I'm under the impression (correct me if I'm wrong) that your boyfriend is giving in and buying things for her? How will she ever learn to back off and be independent if he keeps handing her what she wants? She doesn't seem to be the only one at fault here, if you ask me.

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