Actually, quite a few of the "conservative" Christians you mention don't bother to read the Bible either, they just regurgitate the passages their Pastor feeds them. In 3 different places, the Disciples ask Jesus how to go about evangelising, and He tells them that if someone isn't interested, to go away, leave them alone, and find someone who *wants* to talk with them about it! He also specifically says that missionaries aren't supposed to take money for lodging and food with them. If the people in one place don't want them there so much that they are willing to put them up in their own homes and make sure they get enough to eat, they're obviously not welcome and need to move on. As to the whole prayer in the schools thing, as long as there are midterms and finals, there *will* be prayer in the schools! Jesus says that anyone who makes a loud production of it needs to go "back in the closet" and mend their relationship with God. (I'm serious - direct quote there!)
Unfortunately the sad fact is that the Bible consists of two books - the Old and the New Testaments. Citing the New Testament is nice and all, but it's the Old Testament that is a veritable tome of hatred, bigotry and rampant tyranny.
It's pretty interesting actually, the job I worked on this summer had a girl working there, 16 years old (and her 14 year old sister). Half-Taiwanese, (in my opinion) extremely bright and a very good "thinker". But the discussions we had turned from interesting to "laughably ridiculous" when they broached the topic of her religion.
Her family is Reformed Calvinist. Her dad is a minister; she and her sister were born while their parents were doing a missionary in Fiji for three years.
So obviously, being a Reformed Calvinist, they aren't puritan in terms of customs, but as far as religious beliefs go, they believe EVERYTHING in the Bible. One day we were talking about religion (cordially), and this is the conversation we had:
Her: "One of my biggest pet peeves is when people pick and choose what they want from the Bible."
Me: "In what way? You mean historical anecdotes, like 'did God really rain fire and brimstone upon Sodom and Gommorah?', or moral teachings, like 'you should stone your kids if they speak back to you'. Or both?"
Her: "Anything. Everything."
Me: "So you agree that an unmarried woman who is raped should marry her rapist, as long as the rapist pays her father fifty shekels?"
Her: "Uh..."
Me: "How about you and I take a trip to Utah and take the sword to everyone living in Salt Lake City because they're all heathen Mormons?"
Her: <_<
Me: "Megan."
Her: "Yeah?"
Me: "Do you sacrifice two doves at your father's church every month you have your period?"
Her: "...no. I don't do that."
Me: "So why don't you do that? The Bible says that you should, and the Bible is God's word. I thought you were supposed to do what God told you to."
Her: (much thinking for a good few minutes before she says something along the lines of "Social values naturally change over time", which is officially the lamest response ever)
However, the saddest thing happened when I asked her about
me.
We had had several (very intelligent and altogether fair) discussions about god and our personal beliefs, so she knew I wasn't an outright athiest. But this same day, I asked her, "Megan, if I believed God didn't exist, would I go to Hell?" I'll never forget the facial expression she made as she tried to deal with the mental dilemma. It was just disheartening in a disturbing sort of way, as she tried to weigh her own moral compassion against the rigid values that had been indoctrinated into her from birth, courtesy of her caregivers. Finally she told me that while, "technically", the Bible says, yes, I would go to hell, she really doesn't like the "concept of Hell" - basically saying that she doesn't think a loving God would send people like me to eternal damnation.
After that we were silent.
It was very sad.
Just wanted to share that.