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[lepetitfromage]

No, see, buying a latte with my money? Totally forgivable. This is $50 missing, which is over half of what money I have left, and I have no idea where it is. I don't think anyone stole my money purposefully, but it's definitely gone missing.

Ugh Either way.....I personally feel that your housemate should have reacted to the situation in a different way. Shaming only makes the situation worse. I've been in that position before and it really fucking hurts.

Also- I second the Medicaid thing- it could be worth looking into.


Tuathal, there is not much more to be said that anyone else hasn't said already but I echo their sentiments. Anger can be a scary thing to feel because we feel the need to expel it somehow and for a lot of people, that involves a physical release. Completely disregarding the fact that you may have a history of explosive behavior I don't see anything wrong with how you reacted. Of course, I don't know what was going on in your head, but the important thing to remember is that your actions were NOT wrong. And really? Who the fuck tries to duct tape someone to a tree if they're not trying out to be the new Jackass? And by the way- I think this:

Not due to any actual childhood events or anything terrible like that. I suppose it's just due to years of bullying during high school.

could definitely be considered a "terrible childhood event". People underestimate the power of bullying and I just want to shake them and yell "STOP THIS SHIT! IT FUCKS PEOPLE UP!" The amount of bullying that is tolerated in most school systems is absolutely sickening.

Kat- I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. I think it's total bullshit that schools expect you to magically find your own health insurance over the summer (and in some cases, even winter break). How long have you lived where you're currently at? Most places will allow you to acquire a certificate of residency after a certain amount of time. I think it's usually 6 months?

[Welu]

Found out my favourite tutor on my course, who has been the only thing keeping me from quitting, will most likely not be teaching the next  level. The only other competent tutor is supposed to be in charge so it might not be horrible but it definitely won't be easy. This has seriously made me consider not doing it but I have no back up plan.

[Patrick]

My open mic at the bar just got a new drum kit! It's a really nice Gretsch kit made out of good quality 5-ply birch. Pretty dramatic upgrade from the janky CB kit we'd been using. Only downside is that now I have to re-learn how to do proper doublestroke rolls, since this new kit's stick rebound is about a million times better. OH DARN

And just in case anybody was wondering, asthma is awful. Wish there were a fucking cure for it. UGH

[Lines]

some guys tried to tie me to a tree using duct tape today, I lost it and threw a chair at them.

I also hate that feeling after going into rage mode, but you had every right to react the way you did. Stupid shit like that is completely uncalled for and maybe it'll teach those dudes that they're assholes and hey, maybe they shouldn't fucking assault people.

[Zingoleb]

Tuathal - I completely understand your feelings, because I used to have severe rage problems, and it's taken a lot of time and work to get them under control. That said...what you just went through is an entirely legitimate rage reaction. If someone did that to me, I would explode, too. I'd throw two chairs.

Zing honey, I know you've done a lot of stuff to try and sort your living situation out to be the right place for you, but are there any options you've dismissed where you might be less likely to get your stuff stolen? I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but just feel that your housemates seem to be taking advantage of you (whichever one it was who took the money, or all of them).

Also, apologies if you've already explained this and I forgot, but why are you not able to get Medicaid? I don't really have a clear understanding of how this works - is it because you don't have a legal address?

Anyway I hope things get sorted out because that sounds like a shitty situation to be in.

Right now, I'm just staying at a place, not the right one. It's free to stay here - I pay for my housing in food stamps, helping on the occasional dumpster run, and cleaning. None of the housemates seem to know what happened with the money, so I have a feeling I'm never seeing it again. (That said, I'm entirely not above stealing fifty dollars back from the commie fund before I go, because goddammit, that is over half of my money right now)

No, I applied when I had a legal address. I don't remember why they turned me down. I applied again a couple months ago but I never heard a response - I ought to try applying again next week (I'm super busy from now till about Saturday).

The shitty situation is more along the lines of how they're social justice-y types that take it so far that it's just bloody ridiculous and I can't take them seriously. There was an argument on biological essentialism, gender, and patriarchy that took place two days ago - because we named the cat Ladycakes. I've also been accused of coming from an 'academically classist, upper-middle class background,' despite the fact I've lived in trailers half my life and dropped out of high school after two years - but that doesn't matter, because my father owns a house and I took a speed-typing course once.

...maaaaybe I'm a little ranty about all this.

[Papersatan]

Kat- I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. I think it's total bullshit that schools expect you to magically find your own health insurance over the summer (and in some cases, even winter break). How long have you lived where you're currently at? Most places will allow you to acquire a certificate of residency after a certain amount of time. I think it's usually 6 months?

I've been here 9 months.  For purposes of tuition I cannot be a resident ever unless I work a full time job or my parents purchase property here.  I actually don't think it even counts if I purchase property.  It does not matter that I have no ties to any other state, it doesn't matter if I have a licence here, am registered to vote here, have a part time job here, or how long I live here.  If you move here for school, you pay out of state tuition.  I understand that it is a state school and it is a way to save the tax payers money.  I just hope that the rules for other state aid are not as strict.

Also at my undergrad I got access to the clinic over the summer.  All services were August to August there, so even the summer after graduation I could go to the clinic.   I didn't realize this was not the case here so I put off going until classes were done so I would have more time.  :s

[lepetitfromage]

Ahhhh, ok. I remember something with the schools that I went to mentioning that you have to be a resident for at least a year before school starts to be considered a resident. I guess it makes sense. It just sucks in the rare cases like yours where you're not really a resident anywhere because of their stupid rules. Again, best of luck to you with all this.

[Redball]

I'll keep my fingers crossed as well; the state's not been kind to college students in the last few years.

[valley_parade]

Hopefully a couple people will be at the Boston concert at least (Zing, I'll understand if money doesn't permit but hopefully it will!).

Put me on this boat as well. Hopefully by next month I'll be all set, but ehhhh.

[Redball]

Some of you asked to hear my group, Twelfth Night Singers, an a cappella group which sings at Christmas events in the Detroit area. The links are to three songs: Christ in the Stranger's Guise, O My Dear Heart (perhaps a version you haven't heard) and the Somerset Wassail.
Stranger's Guise is almost a theme piece for our group, and O My Dear Heart is my personal favorite. I love the harmonies in that song, and the images in the text: "The knees of my heart shall I bow." I'm not much of a Christian although I've never been far from the faith, but I come closest with such music. I don't like this done with a soprano solo, although ours has a most lovely voice. But our director on the day this was made was unhappy with the group's pitch in SATB. Whenever four parts are together in my presence, it gets done minus the solo. The group knows about my affection for it. The best I ever heard it done was with two on a part around a kitchen table in Royal Oak, Michigan, after everybody else had left the host's St. Patrick's Day party. In the photo at the bar, I'm in the foreground at far left. More information about the group is at twelfthnightsingers.com. I prepared and uploaded the pages. I had a difficult time uploading the last photo. Hope this works.
Songs:
http://db.tt/MILBfRvC  http://db.tt/GnE74ZYU  http://db.tt/Fwnb5dOY
Photos:
http://dl.dropbox.com/u/4416271/12thnitesingers%20at%20gem.tif
http://dl.dropbox.com/u/4416271/12thnitesingers%20all.tif

[celticgeek]

Lovely music.  And quite a good looking bunch of singers, too. 

[pwhodges]

Gosh, that wassail takes me back to my childhood!  My parents had taken in two refugee families during WWII, and this had given them a wide range of friends from Eastern Orthodox churches in particular (my father was a theologian, with a tendency towards Orthodoxy). Each Christmas throughout my childhood we would host a big party to sing carols, which would include a wide range of little known carols from all parts of Europe, and some well-known ones in new translations by my father.  That wassail was indeed one of our regulars, and I'm not sure I've heard it since.  Thanks!

[Patrick]

Good lord, what a set of recordings. Well worth the wait. Thanks Redball!

Dear blerg,

The guy whose bad performance upset me at my friend's open mic last week decided to show up at MINE this week. Fortunately, a lot of really talented folks I'd never seen before decided to surprise me by coming out of the woodwork. My favorite regular (this absolutely precious high school junior) showed back up after a couple weeks of absence. Much as I'm jealous of how unreal that kid's level of talent is, I'm still the cat who gets to say "I facilitated her first public performance outside of school" in about ten years when she's famous. I fucking love my job.

Later, at the open mic my friend runs, I showed up with my geetar, played a Rilo Kiley song I just learned, and two of my favorite Troubador songs. My last ex was there, and she kept watching me all night until she left. That made me super nervous. I'd also just finished a massive breve latte (one of the perks of running open mic at a coffee shop) so I was jittery to start with. Still, guess I nailed it, 'cause I never heard the bar get louder than they did after my songs. Felt like such a bawss. Hellyea.

Love,
Me

[Barmymoo]

I like them! My dad and his partner would love to be in your group, they sing with two choirs but neither is very good. Although they enjoy the music, I think they would like to be in a choir where people sing in tune... Also love the costumes, do you own them or rent different ones for each performance?

[Redball]

Thanks for the compliments! The women make their own costumes or have them made by a woman in the group at their own expense. The men have their costumes made by the same woman, but at the group's expense.

[Barmymoo]

Care to explain the rationale?

[Redball]

Geez, I don't think I have an explanation. The men's costumes belong to the group.

[Redball]

So today a few friends and I went to the park to hang out all afternoon and the other guitarist for our new punk project called Burning Puppies was there so we did some fun jammy stuff. Exactly what I needed after last night.

I smile at band names but don't give much thought to them since it's not my kind of music. But Burning Puppies prompted another: Screwed Pooches. Many Americans first heard the phrase "screwed the pooch" in "The Right Stuff," about the first U.S. astronauts, as a reference to crashing an airplane, usually or often fatally. I last heard it in negotiation with some local politicians, when one responded to a comment I'd just made: "Now you've screwed the pooch," i.e., he wasn't going to negotiate any more. OTOH, who'd want to use a band name that might suggest "crash and burn"?

[Welu]

I just finished exporting my final major project. Two tutors watched it. There was some giggling because two of the actors were former students so it was silly seeing them trying to be serious actors. They both said they think it's genuinely good though. Just need to work out with the head when it's okay for me to put it up online.

[Barmymoo]

I simply cannot be bothered to do any more revision. This is kind of a problem, because I have an exam on Tuesday and an exam on Wednesday, and then exams on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday of the following week. My preparedness for each exam decreases as they get further away.

[schimmy]

I have a job interview in 2 hours. Embarrassingly, I've managed to make it to this age (20, graduating from university) without ever having had a job. I get the impression it shouldn't be too hard to get the job - it's just knocking on doors asking people to give to charity, and they've given me an interview without even having asked for a CV, so I'm guessing so long as I come off as friendly and confident in the interview, I should be alright.
I really hope I get it, because it would mean I get to stay living in a city that I love and that my girlfriend lives in. The alternative is moving back in with my dad, who lives in a boring-ass town with practically zero job prospects.

[lepetitfromage]

Good luck! If you're as well versed in the interview as you are online, I think you'll be fine! Plus, even though you've never had a job, you DO have a college education. That's gotta count for something. 

[Barmymoo]

Things I have done today: changed my bedding, made a pasta bake, read six pages of the archives of TheBloggess.com.

Things I have not done today: any revision.

[Redball]

Here's another thing you can do today: define "revision" in your current context.

[LTK]

Things I have done today: changed my bedding, made a pasta bake, read six pages of the archives of TheBloggess.com.

Things I have not done today: any revision.

Procrastination is the best way to get tasks done that you wouldn't want to do otherwise.

[Barmymoo]

Only one of those things falls under that category, I'm afraid.

[pwhodges]

I spent a couple of hours a day in my finals term playing a harpsichord in the Ashmolean Museum.  Most relaxing it was, too.



There are some recordings of me playing (the day that photo was taken, which was later that same year); they are in the National Sound Archive at the British Library - but I don't have copies myself...

[Akima]

Here's another thing you can do today: define "revision" in your current context.

Revision is the process of revising.

Revise: [intrans.] Reread work done previously to improve one's knowledge of a subject, typically to prepare for an examination : students frantically revising for exams | [ trans. ] revise your lecture notes on the topic.

[Lines]

Here's another thing you can do today: define "revision" in your current context.

Yeah, what exactly do you mean by revision? You seem to do a lot of them.

[Barmymoo]

Oh man don't you guys use that word? Weird. I'm revising - as Akima says, it means studying. Going over the work I did this year (or the work I should have done this year...) and learning it properly because I have exams next week.

[pwhodges]

I see the Oxford American Dictionary & Merriam-Webster's mark this meaning of revise as "British".  That would never have occurred to me.

[Redball]

In other words (with the same root), review.

[Carl-E]

Really?  You guys are just getting this?  I got it out of the context of usage a while ago. 

Of course, we've been listening to Barmymoo bitch about revising for quite a while, too...   

[Redball]

No, I kept reading it as editing, and it was an extraordinarily long document. Almost a dissertation.

[Lines]

Same here. Now this makes a WHOLE lot more sense, considering I was wondering why the heck you had to edit papers so many times. Thanks for the clarity!

[lepetitfromage]

Ditto! I always assumed she was writing too 

Oh and I'm a terrible influence, but reading The Bloggess archives is SO much more fun!

(Have you read her book? It's phenomenal!)

[schimmy]

I got through the interview! I train on monday and tuesday, then on wednesday I start work proper. This is excellent! I'm actually going to get to live in a city I'd given up as too expensive to live in. Hooray!

[lepetitfromage]

Sweet! Congrats!

[Redball]

Tell us about it when you start.

[Redball]

Ditto! I always assumed she was writing too 

Oh and I'm a terrible influence, but reading The Bloggess archives is SO much more fun!

(Have you read her book? It's phenomenal!)

Wait. What? Who? I found a couple of neat, sad short stories attributed to a barmymoo.... I also found a Bloggess..... Which?

[lepetitfromage]

I was talking about The Bloggess, who recently released her first book.  It's both sad, happy and absolutely hilarious all at the same time. It's called Let's Pretend This Never Happened and it's a "mostly true" memoir filled with utterly ridiculous stories about the life of Jenny Lawson aka The Bloggess. At one point I laughed so hard that I actually had to put the book down and go to the little girl's room. Amusingly enough, it was a story about a diaper.

This is one of my favorites-
http://thebloggess.com/2011/06/psychiatrists-are-not-to-be-trusted/

And this is a "classic" aka why most of the people who read her blog started reading in the first place-
http://thebloggess.com/2011/06/and-thats-why-you-should-learn-to-pick-your-battles/


(I've never read any of barmymoo's short stories, but I'd like to!)

[Omega Entity]

Really?  You guys are just getting this?  I got it out of the context of usage a while ago. 

Of course, we've been listening to Barmymoo bitch about revising for quite a while, too...   

Got it from the context too. Pretty much just another word for 'studying', or in a more sever context, 'cramming'.

[Barmymoo]

I do want to read the Bloggess's book, but I haven't yet.

Where did you find my short stories? Assuming they were actually mine. I'm guessing either my barmymoo website (which might well disappear soon, I didn't renew the hosting) or my old writing portfolio. Feedback welcome They're all pretty old, I've just been writing essays for the last three years.

On the revising thing, I'm not really cramming or studying - I'd say studying is what I was (should have been) doing all year, and cramming is what I'll be doing on the morning of each exam, just going through my flashcards making sure the correct things are at the front of my mind.

[Jace]

I had no idea what revising meant but I just knew it was something to do with university.

[Patrick]

Many Americans first heard the phrase "screwed the pooch" in "The Right Stuff," about the first U.S. astronauts, as a reference to crashing an airplane, usually or often fatally.

The film adaptation is my favorite movie of all time. The book is amazing as well.

Today I went with my bandie Matt to put fliers up all over town for a show we have in a little under a week. Matt recently got his wisdom teeth out, so when he got a hot dog for lunch when we were done, it was amusing watching him try to eat the damn thing.

Afterward we went to our producer Sedric's house so we could do a little preliminary mixing work on the final 4 songs of the album. We're all pretty dissatisfied with the way they sound. We're probably just going to go back to recording ourselves in Matt's garage, just like we did from the beginning. These new ones have a few of my favorites among them too, so I'm doubly upset. We'll see what Sed can do with them. We have some decent-sounding ideas tossing around, at least.

[Akima]

I see the Oxford American Dictionary & Merriam-Webster's mark this meaning of revise as "British".  That would never have occurred to me.

Yes, I was surprised too when I looked it up. Australian English uses the word in the same way as British in this case.

[Redball]

Re-view = view again.
But re-vise = ?
I wonder how they came to be synonymous. I wonder if vise is used in the UK with any other prefixes where we'd use view.

[Carl-E]

Don't know of any offhand, but the root of the -vise part is the same as the root of vision, and so view as well...

[Barmymoo]

I was complaining about my contraceptive pill prescription fiasco in the discuss forum prudery thread, but I thought the update might be more appropriate here. Last night after work I went to the pharmacy and said "hey have you got my pills yet dawg?" or similar words to that effect. It was a woman who I hadn't seen before, the last two times it was the same guy who wasn't unhelpful or rude but just wasn't great. This woman was very helpful, and understood my problem (I suspect that the fact she also has a womb and therefore presumably also has suffered from PMT might have helped). I explained that my exams start on Tuesday, and that I had a period last week and one last month too, and since I normally only have them every four months I really didn't want to have another one for the next week while I try to get hold of some drugs to regulate my hormones again.

She said that:
if the pills arrive this morning she will ring me and let me know
if they do not arrive by early afternoon, she will ring me and also ring the other pharmacies and try to get some in
if she can't get hold of any, she will ring my surgery on Monday and get them to alter the prescription to an identical pill under a different brand

Basically she has solved my problem entirely They still have no clue where the pills actually are, they've been ordered three times this week and no message has come through to say why they haven't turned up, but at least I will not be dissolving into a pile of incompetent goo during my exams.

[Redball]

Any thought of Googling the medication and brand to see if there's a shortage in the U.K.? Any thought of switching pharmacies?