This is actually highly apropos to a discussion I had at the pub last night. An older guy was outside whilst I was having a fag with a gay woman, and he was a little bit unsure of terminology (particularly the word "gay"). I pointed out that saying "x" person is gay is not a slur if used neutrally, but saying that "that is so gay" is a slur, and shouldn't generally be used. Context and intent mean everything, and not everyone picks up on that easily. The bloke I was talking to wasn't biased, just (self-admittedly) a bit ignorant of what sorts of things were bad to say, and what weren't. And honestly, I prefer to deal with people who admit their ignorance, because they *know* they need to learn things, and are willing to do so. There are several things I'm rather ignorant about, including a lot of trans* issues, but I'm willing to step up and admit it, and learn more, so I'm not such a dumb-fuck.