I don't think that he's being given enough credit here (the Patreon posts are much kinder) . Despite Joycemum going all "drag her out and take her home", Joycedad is simply offering her an out, were things to get too crazy. She, despite everything she went through (attempted rape, kidnappings, having a gun pointed at her, and serious shocks to her belief system) is actually home. Hank understands that, and I think, is glad that Joyce said what she did.