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WCDT strips 4381-4385 (Oct 26th to Oct 30th 2020)
Gnabberwocky:
I actually think that while Marten/Dora wasn't a stable relationship, it was one of the more interesting and realistic ones. This is all I will say on that matter to avoid another Dorapocalypse.
The other couples are almost fantasy in their stability. Fights are rare, minor, and easily and quickly resolved. While I don't want to see any catastrophic breakups, it would certainly add a little intrigue to the comic if there were a bigger dispute.
Gyrre:
--- Quote from: Gnabberwocky on 01 Nov 2020, 14:34 ---I actually think that while Marten/Dora wasn't a stable relationship, it was one of the more interesting and realistic ones. This is all I will say on that matter to avoid another Dorapocalypse.
The other couples are almost fantasy in their stability. Fights are rare, minor, and easily and quickly resolved. While I don't want to see any catastrophic breakups, it would certainly add a little intrigue to the comic if there were a bigger dispute.
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I blame Hollywood. There are so few stable/healthy relationships in movies and so SO many examples of sequels where the pair that get together in tbe first movie get broken up off screen just so they can retread the romantic subplot. Usually much to the detriment of the narrative.
Are there any examples other than The Mummy and The Mummy Returns where that doesn't happen?
Tova:
--- Quote from: Gnabberwocky on 01 Nov 2020, 14:34 ---I actually think that while Marten/Dora wasn't a stable relationship, it was one of the more interesting and realistic ones. This is all I will say on that matter to avoid another Dorapocalypse.
The other couples are almost fantasy in their stability. Fights are rare, minor, and easily and quickly resolved. While I don't want to see any catastrophic breakups, it would certainly add a little intrigue to the comic if there were a bigger dispute.
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Not only that, if there ever is some kind of non-trivial fight or conflict, then the overwhelming majority of forumites assume that the relationship is over.
Real relationships are not all sunshine and flowers. There are fights and we cause genuine hurt.
Long-lasting relationships are made through the real work required to deal with those moments.
--- Quote from: N.N. Marf on 01 Nov 2020, 12:15 ---What meant you by truly learn?
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Great question.
To truly learn from your mistakes is to understand yourself well enough to know why it happened and what you need to do to be a better person. That kind of necessary work is an act of self love. If you can't forgive yourself, then lack that fundamental prerequisite.
If you believe you did wrong because you're a bad person, then of course you won't be able to forgive yourself. If instead you focus on the behaviour, then you can believe that are able to change your behaviour in the future. To fail to forgive yourself is to believe that you can't do better, so of course you won't. Simply telling yourself you're a bad person isn't understanding yourself, and it's not truly learning from your mistakes.
Accountability isn't refusal to forgive yourself. Accountability is work.
Farideh:
--- Quote from: Gyrre on 01 Nov 2020, 17:09 ---I blame Hollywood. There are so few stable/healthy relationships in movies and so SO many examples of sequels where the pair that get together in tbe first movie get broken up off screen just so they can retread the romantic subplot. Usually much to the detriment of the narrative.
Are there any examples other than The Mummy and The Mummy Returns where that doesn't happen?
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That is pretty much what I see in my social circle as well. People get into a relationship and it just... comes along. Sure, there are some squabbles and disagreements here and there, but for the most part things tend to be quite harmonious. Why does it have to be difficult to be real?
BlueFatima:
The lack of conflict is a big part of what turns me off about Bubbles and Faye (yes, I know this will make me super unpopular). I’ve worked in family business and for couples before. It is not easy—even in situations couples are totally chill, communicate well and have a decent skill managing. I am not buying for a second Faye and Bub are realistic. Sure we have a robot who’s needs are possibly less $ since she doesn’t need food or as many outfits, but they are always talking debt—and to be so chill about it seems way out of character for Faye—even if she is doing therapy and such.
I am totally happy with the other happy couples’ dynamics, but would still like to see them more. Even when you are in a fantastic relationship, arguments happen and life can be challenging. That is where major growth can happen in a relationship and individually...because life changes—even if you are child free. I am guessing, though, we’ll see this more in the future for the characters. Real life seems exciting enough right now... I suppose it is a bit of a little break not to read a mostly happy strip that references it (though I appreciate a few who have managed to pull it off well).
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