If only everyone in society could differentiate between simulation and reality but not every one can. This is the major problem with rape fetishes (?). Some people will take what they see and re-enact the simulation, turn it from a realistic expression into a total reality.
Well see the thing is, for the most part rape
fetishes and actual rape for the most part are two entirely different entities.
When it comes to actual rape, there is usually some sort of intent for doing harm unto the victim. I have
NEVER read about a single instance of rape where the victim was consensual, expectant, or accepting of the rape in ANY way shape or form.
Now on the other hand you have rape as a FETISH. This is almost always (95%+) a premeditated and consensual activity. There is absolutely NO intention of harm or abuse, and there is usually, if not always, a way to stop it if one of the people is suddenly uncomfortable with the situation. I can speak from personal experience as this is something I engage in from time to time. For people who are interested in the fetish, the simulated loss of power and control over the "situation" translate into a huge turn on.
And for the most part, there are communities for meeting people with interest in this particular fetish, as well as self help guides to help people identify with that part of themselves.
As for what influences the fetish, I couldn't say. In my case, it's a passion for the submissive lifestyle, but each person is different.
So from my understanding of the topic, any poor bastard that CAN'T tell the difference between the fetish and reality sides of rape is one SERIOUSLY under-educated person. One is performed as an explicit means to do harm unto another, one is meant for physical enjoyment. If it gets out of hand, a girl will say stop or a pre-designated safe word. If you didn't agree on one, it's probably not consensual. Doesn't take a genius to tell the difference.
As for raped performed under the influence, 2 solutions (in my opinion) 1. bust a nut before drinking to get rid of the hormones making you horny in the first place, or drink with a friend that will smack you silly if you ever try anything. I need not worry about either, I drink with my girlfriend (of whom I am fiercely loyal to) and she would whoop my ass if I tried anything while drunk. (or turn it around and rape my silly drunk ass. which is cool with me)
I apologize for my rant, just thought I would interject my opinion as I am one of the RARE men who enjoy this particular fetish.
If I missed anything feel free to call me on it. This is all my opinion and is always open to interpretation.
((First post, sorry for not making a welcome thread. This one just caught my eye. If I broke any rules [yes I did read em] please let me know))