clearly she needs "help" with that because she'd rather sit on her computer all night than put forth any effort to socialise and enjoy the company of others.
Although I agree with hygiene being an issue, I strongly disagree with the above claim.
What people enjoy doing with their time is up to them, as long as it doesn't harm others. Yes, it seems likely that she will turn out to enjoy socialising, and be much happier for it, and in that case she will have been "helped". Yes, in this particular case she states that she doesn't know "how to talk to people" as a reason, which is a good indicator that it's a matter of inhibition rather than pure preference.
But: your statement suggests that wanting to sit on a computer all night rather than socialise is wrong, and someone who felt that way would need help.
I think that's kind of narrow-minded... I'm sure you disagree, but let me elaborate.
When it comes down to it, it's a simple issue of preference and although as a culture we're pushed to believe that being social is somehow 'right', it doesn't make it true. I know people who honestly prefer to stay at home and mess around on their computers than go out. I initially took the busy-body role and thought they needed help themselves, that they were just silly and hadn't tried having good ol' social fun. I dragged said friends out places, and you know what?
2 house parties, a concert (a band they all loved), a picnic, 3 bars and a sunny day at the beach later... They didn't enjoy themselves. Didn't matter where. They just genuinely did not have a good time - they genuinely preferred spending time online.
Someone not wanting to go out doesn't make them a child that we have to go and teach a lesson. Too many jump into crud like this assuming that they somehow know more about the person in question than that person knows themselves. The fact of the matter is that we all enjoy different things, and I know I ended up feeling like a dick for trying to force what I enjoy on other adults.
Anyway, I don't mean to be rude or anything, just to present a case against a common assumption. I registered just to post this, because it's something I personally have learned that many people seem to not consider.
Sorry to go a little off-topic. Again, it does appear that Marigold would personally benefit from some socialisation, but the reasons in the quoted claim seemed to be unspecific to Marigold.
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