Topic: Things People Assume About You (Read 29081 times)

CrowFairy · « **Reply #50 on:** 14 Mar 2013, 15:37 »

Oh, yeah, I've been asked if I'm anorexic before. It's been a few years since then. Because my butt .... blossomed, to say the least (even though I'm literally on the fringe of barely in the appropriate weight range). I am also tired of the "need a cheeseburger" thing, especially when it's directed at vegetarians/vegans. I was one for 7.5 years, so I've definitely gotten that remark. It still rubs me the wrong way when it's directed at other people.

Also, this one guy I know seems to think I've slept with almost every male I've ever met. Not quite sure where he got this idea, because it's about as unfounded as they come.

Welu · « **Reply #51 on:** 14 Mar 2013, 16:32 »

Recently a coworker said to me, "You seem like you should be all... Woman-y." which I eventually decoded to "feminist" and responded, "Well, yeah." and she gave me a really awkward smile followed with, "Yeah. You seem like you'd be all into that sorta stuff. Girl power!"

I don't quite get what they were saying? Also it's been a while so I might be remembering wrong but it's one of those odd exchanges that keeps popping up into my brain.

CrowFairy · « **Reply #52 on:** 14 Mar 2013, 17:32 »

Do you consider yourself feminine? Masculine? If you're not very feminine (not necessarily masculine, even), then you may seem like the sort of person they associate with feminism.

Welu · « **Reply #53 on:** 14 Mar 2013, 17:51 »

Oh, I'm not feminine at all, at least in terms of conventional "girly" interests. Plus I do regularly have discussions about feminism and various social justice type topics but never in work. I think it was more how she said it, which in fairness was probably just she couldn't get the right words. Right before we were chatting about her media studies idea, which is analysing documentaries and fairy tales. (Side note: Media studies is awesome.)
I think what bothered me is the way she skirted around the word "feminism". Reminds me of the mentality, "I'm all for equality too but not like in a feminist way."

Loki · « **Reply #54 on:** 14 Mar 2013, 17:57 »

If your life was a sitcom, it would turn out what she actually meant was not "feminist", but "lesbian".

This comment does not endorse the usage of sexual orientation for purposes of humor.

Welu · « **Reply #55 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 05:16 »

I honestly thought that was what she meant at first.

Papersatan · « **Reply #56 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 05:44 »

If so, the awkward smile could have meant it was an attempt to pull... just a thought

Welu · « **Reply #57 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 05:53 »

Highly doubt it. We're both in long term heterosexual relationships, were even talking about them before hand. That's why I continued trying to figure out what she meant after first thinking of the idea.

BeoPuppy · « **Reply #58 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 05:54 »

Maybe she's just ... curious.

Welu · « **Reply #59 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 06:01 »

Aren't we all a little... curious?

sitnspin · « **Reply #60 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 07:21 »

Quote from: LoliBot on 14 Mar 2013, 15:37

Also, this one guy I know seems to think I've slept with almost every male I've ever met. Not quite sure where he got this idea, because it's about as unfounded as they come.

In my experience, guys don't need any reason to jump to that conclusion, they will do it entirely on their own.

nekowafer · « **Reply #61 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 07:22 »

Yeah I was treated like the class slut when I was in high school... because I wasn't as afraid to discuss sex as everyone else.

Pilchard123 · « **Reply #62 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 08:13 »

While still at school, I was once asked if I didn't eat chocolate for any religious reason. The daft thing is, chocolate (and maybe apple pie) is probably the thing I eat most of, aside from actual meals. I just didn't eat much chocolate at school because I kept my lunch in my pockets so I could eat it on the playing field and not get caught (the rule was there to prevent littering) and it would go all melty.

Loki · « **Reply #63 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 08:15 »

What cruel religion requires it's followers to not eat chocolate? Also, why did people assume that there must me a religious reason rather than, say, a health issue or a matter of taste?

RedWolf4 · « **Reply #64 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 08:19 »

People assume I'm American. Probably comes from the accent I got off of being raised by a pack of feral backpackers.

And Sesame Street.

Also that I'm stoned alot. I attribute it to the drinking, as the closest I've ever been to a blunt is at best a light contact high.

sitnspin · « **Reply #65 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 09:14 »

Seriously? Religion? For that matter, why would you assume that just because you've never seen someone do a particular thing in your presence that they never do it? If I had never heard a particular person sing, I would not automatically assume they never sing ever.

Papersatan · « **Reply #66 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 10:17 »

Mormons can't have caffeine, though I don't think any of the Mormons I knew were strict enough to avoid chocolate.

Carl-E · « **Reply #67 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 10:52 »

As a mormon I dated once said, "There's caffeine in chocolate? Who knew!

"

Yes, the winking smiley was part of that quote...

Thrillho · « **Reply #68 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 15:09 »

Quote from: nekowafer on 15 Mar 2013, 07:22

Yeah I was treated like the class slut when I was in high school... because I wasn't as afraid to discuss sex as everyone else.

I remember the first time I admitted to my friends that I masturbated on a regular basis. The absolute horror on their faces was hilarious.

Welu · « **Reply #69 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 15:24 »

Quote from: nekowafer on 15 Mar 2013, 07:22

Yeah I was treated like the class slut when I was in high school... because I wasn't as afraid to discuss sex as everyone else.

As was I because I knew the names of some STDs and that you used condoms to be safe.

Pilchard123 · « **Reply #70 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 15:27 »

Quote from: Gareth on 15 Mar 2013, 15:09

I remember the first time I admitted to my friends that I masturbated on a regular basis. The absolute horror on their faces was hilarious.

I got pretty much the same reaction when I said that I didn't.

Papersatan · « **Reply #71 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 15:44 »

I was a prude in Highschool. Also I was 'straight'.

It is complicated.

Not, really I guess.

Thrillho · « **Reply #72 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 15:45 »

This is a good thing, I guess, but people assume I'm not autistic.

Zingoleb · « **Reply #73 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 16:02 »

I don't.

Thrillho · « **Reply #74 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 16:36 »

WELL I GUESS YOU DIDN'T MAKE AN ASS OUT OF YOU AND ME THEN DIDJA

Zingoleb · « **Reply #75 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 16:41 »

no, that's usually your job.

nekowafer · « **Reply #76 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 16:52 »

Welu · « **Reply #77 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 17:00 »

I assume all of you people are amazing.

Thrillho · « **Reply #78 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 17:16 »

Yeah but you already know all about my ass.

nekowafer · « **Reply #79 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 17:19 »

Who doesn't?

Thrillho · « **Reply #80 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 17:29 »

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jwhouk · « **Reply #81 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 20:26 »

I'm assuming that all these people who presume that people who aren't American actually are have probably never actually MET an American.

Bluesummers · « **Reply #82 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 21:06 »

This here's real Muricah, dadgummit! ...Or so my in-laws would say.

dr. nervioso · « **Reply #83 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 21:12 »

Quote from: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 06:01

Aren't we all a little... curious?

Now remember, curiosity killed the cat. Which now that I think about it, that phrase now has a much different meaning today...

People assume I'm much more plain and tame than I actually am. I have a very normal exterior, but underneath that there are drag queens and kinkiness galore

CrowFairy · « **Reply #84 on:** 15 Mar 2013, 21:22 »

See, I rarely discuss sex in any form or fashion with anyone I don't highly trust. I play D&D, so occasionally I'll have a character that flirts a lot and isn't afraid to get naked in front of people, but I can't think of one that was actually promiscuous in any real sense. The person that assumes I sleep with anything that moves also was the DM of a game where I was a freakin' 63-year-old monk. If you tried to judge me solely on the characters I play, you would be very confused. XD And yet, after playing a second flirtatious character, apparently I'm in everybody's pants. -.-

And speaking of autism, I think there were some people who were surprised that I don't have it, because there was this awkward/hilarious stunned silence when my friend said I was the only person in the room (out of 6 people) that didn't have it. XD

And speaking of international confusion, I got asked by an idiot in sixth grade if I was Chinese. Still trying to figure that one out. My eyes are huge.

And Welu, I assume the same.

BeoPuppy · « **Reply #85 on:** 16 Mar 2013, 10:44 »

Quote from: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 17:00

I assume all of you people are amazing.

... I'm not.

de_la_Nae · « **Reply #86 on:** 16 Mar 2013, 10:59 »

Quote from: Loki on 15 Mar 2013, 08:15

What cruel religion requires it's followers to not eat chocolate?

Nugginism.

Carl-E · « **Reply #87 on:** 16 Mar 2013, 19:15 »

Quote from: BeoPuppy on 16 Mar 2013, 10:44

Quote from: Welu on 15 Mar 2013, 17:00
I assume all of you people are amazing.
... I'm not.

Yes you are. And it's amazing how well you hide it!

Loki · « **Reply #88 on:** 17 Mar 2013, 05:21 »

Quote from: de_la_Nae on 16 Mar 2013, 10:59

Quote from: Loki on 15 Mar 2013, 08:15
What cruel religion requires it's followers to not eat chocolate?

Nugginism.

I thought that was only if it's blue and/or contains babies.

Patrick · « **Reply #89 on:** 17 Mar 2013, 16:08 »

I think the only time I discuss sex in anything but a juvenile manner is here, and you can probably guess that it doesn't happen much.

Thrillho · « **Reply #90 on:** 17 Mar 2013, 16:51 »

Me and Pat's conversations are 50% guitars, 49% women and 1% feels

Blue Kitty · « **Reply #91 on:** 17 Mar 2013, 20:51 »

You know, I have absolutely no idea what people assume about me. Either I never ask or they never tell me.

I guess list some out for me?

Zingoleb · « **Reply #92 on:** 17 Mar 2013, 21:19 »

People assume they know my gender a lot.

They're wrong.

Emoroffle · « **Reply #93 on:** 18 Mar 2013, 00:58 »

First: Despite being almost thirty people still assume I'm a teenager, I have to admit I do look like I'm in my teens. I suppose the gothic lolita fashions I wear don't help much either.

Second: That I'm boring as I tend to speak calmly and in monotone most of the time. I write crazier than I act, but I have been known to break into song and dance numbers in the middle of the mall. I'm also an amateur (read: weekend) racer. Racetracks only people, I'm not one of those jerks with a noisy civic who zooms by on public streets. I drive a 1988 RX-7.

Third: Because of my hispanic heritage and the area I live in people tend to assume I don't speak English. Which is funny when one considers I usually speak better English than most of the ones doing the assuming.

catflea · « **Reply #94 on:** 18 Mar 2013, 07:24 »

Quote from: Unicorn on 17 Mar 2013, 21:19

People assume they know my gender a lot.

They're wrong.

People assume gender is a binary thing...

KingOfIreland · « **Reply #95 on:** 18 Mar 2013, 07:34 »

WAIT. What? Stop the presses!

Carl-E · « **Reply #96 on:** 18 Mar 2013, 10:32 »

You've not been following for a little while, have you?

Patrick · « **Reply #97 on:** 18 Mar 2013, 11:23 »

Quote from: Emoroffle on 18 Mar 2013, 00:58

I suppose the gothic lolita fashions I wear don't help much either.

I require more information.

nekowafer · « **Reply #98 on:** 18 Mar 2013, 11:24 »

Same.

I kind of want to do a goth lolita look but people already think I look so young...

KingOfIreland · « **Reply #99 on:** 18 Mar 2013, 11:51 »

Quote from: Carl-E on 18 Mar 2013, 10:32

You've not been following for a little while, have you?

I was actually alluding to it being entirely obvious from these forums :p

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