that aom thing has me missing my grandpa. he would always go to this one barbershop here in town, and i'd go in with him. and yeah, there always were a bunch of dudes in there just hanging out... hmm.
for me though, as a lady, the thing that has helped me the most is being friends with hair-bitches (self proclaimed). i just kind of tell my friend carly what sort of maintenance i do (she already knows though), how much shorter i want it, and what's the biggest thing i care about with it. then i just go "make me cute". ie i have kinda wavy hair so it has nice spirals, which she already knows about so i tell her i don't blow it dry hardly ever, just put some product in and go, i'm trying to grow it out, and i want to cover my grays but to be honest i probably won't be coming in all the time for touch ups, but i do want it to be fun and creative. but this is a person who already knows my hair and has seen it and me many times so knows my tastes... having a relationship with a hairdresser (like if you have a great haircut once, keep going back to that same person!) makes it SO much easier