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ummmkay:
re: friends and exes - I think the amount of time between relationships is an important factor, too. My best friend got together with my ex (first boyfriend, we were together well over 2 years) only a couple months after we went through a very, very bad breakup. She basically decided that banging him was more important than us staying friends, lots of drama, yada yada yada, haven't spoken to either of them in quite a while now. Probably the biggest reason it was so hard for me was just because it was so soon after our breakup and I wasn't over it yet.

All that to say, I think it's easier for people to handle that kind of situation after gaining some emotional distance from the situation - and for some that takes longer than others.

jmrz:
Yeah, Christmas Day breakup guy - ended up dating one of our mutual friends. It was long enough after the fact for me to be sorta okay with it, and now, for me, after being in other relationships since, I couldn't care less. They are happy, I'm happy in my relationship - no problems. I still talk to both of them occasionally and it doesn't seem weird so all is good.

So yes, I totally think it is okay - but in some situations more than others. ummmkay's situation perhaps was a bit... ergh. Not cool. But I mean, if all parties are okay with it then it isn't really anyone else's place to chuck a hissy fit about it.

calenlass:
I have never understood these "rules" about dating. I will hunt down and fuck whomever I damn well please, and if you are my ex and the individual in question happens to be your best friend, well, chances are I am not thinking of you! You want to talk about self-centeredness? That is the reason you would ever think that someone was dating your best friend "just to get back at you", and that is the reason you would ever think you have a say in someone else's choices about their life. I will "date" your best friend because I think they are hot, not because I am out to get you. If you and I have broken up, I am probably not interested in doing anything to do with you at all, and just because your best friend happens to be YOUR best friend does not make them an extension of you.

Patrick:
Katie is doing it right. That is how all people should operate. My rules for dating are simple:

1. No incest
2. No animals
3. No Tommy (fucker gets enough play as it is)
4. If your relationship is monogamous, fucking keep it that way

They all seem pretty reasonable to me. I mean, I'm not going to be inconsiderate and just discount other people's feelings (unless they've been really shitty or unreasonable about things, at which point I don't care). But hell, as long as the other person is lucid and consenting, I say "Fuck it, fair game."

supersheep:
The whole thing about not dating your friend's ex is, for me anyways, more a matter of making them feel comfortable and ensuring there are no hurt feelings among people you're friends with. I mean, if I broke up with someone and a friend of mine wanted to go out with them, I would have no problem with it - I'd probably prefer it if they waited a week or two, but that's not really that much of an issue. If the girl broke up with me, and my mate wanted to go out with her, I'd hope that he'd consider my feelings enough to wait until I was cool with it, and expect some minor awkwardness/uncomfortable jokes.
If I broke up with someone and wanted to date their best friend, I'd probably wait a while - I don't want to hurt someone's friendships, even if it means delaying gratification for a while. If they broke up with me, though, I don't think they could complain if I went after their friend soon after though. Unless we were trying to stay friends or whatever.

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