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Eye contact
Patrick:
I am such a terrible eye-contact offender in informal situations. If you want eye contact out of me, we have to be friends, amicable acquaintances, family, or introduced by one of the above. If we're strangers or neutral/"I don't really like you" acquaintances, it's going to be damn near impossible to get me to even look at you like I realize you're there.
The rules are rewritten for attractive females though. When it comes to attraction I'm excruciatingly shy about ever getting up the nerve to talk, but I sure do love smiling big at pretty girls if our eyes meet. They generally smile back, and in my opinion, the greatest of life's little pleasures is trading smiles with a pretty girl.
Abyssalin:
--- Quote from: Patrick on 07 Sep 2012, 02:56 --- and in my opinion, the greatest of life's little pleasures is trading smiles with a pretty girl.
--- End quote ---
This is what gets me through the boring Monday's full day of college.
idontunderstand:
Because of my hearing problem I read lips a lot, mostly subconsciously. This creates a problem when it comes to eye contact, since I both tend to stare at people when they talk, but not quite into their eyes. The effect is somewhere between Woody Allen and Hannibal Lecter. Sometimes I notice I make someone uncomfortable and I look away and try to hear what they say without looking at them, with varying results.. people can get annoyed when someone both won't look into their face and also don't reply/reply in a weird way to what they're saying, since it makes me seem nonchalant. So it's a difficult balancing there..
Pilchard123:
Hannibal Lecter and you're a psychopath in a hockey mask? Hm...
nekowafer:
I even feel slightly strange looking my cats or ferrets in the eyes. But they can't tell me how weird they think I am, so that makes it better. I'm pretty well convinced that people I stare at think I'm weird. That has as much to do with hating eye contact as it does with my lack of self-esteem. My therapist was saying that people will think I'm not confident if I don't look at them. Well, whether I'm confident or not, I'm perfectly fine with people underestimating me. Better than them overestimating me and being disappointed.
I actually thought for a while that I was on the autism spectrum. No official diagnosis or anything like that, but it would have explained many things.
I can't read people's body language well either - now I'm wondering, is it because I'm not looking at them directly more often?
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