So I got dumped today.
When we first started going out, she was a lot more into me than I was into her. I felt a bit uncomfortable about it, like I wasn't being fair to her. We discussed it, and she said that she was okay with the situation. I decided that, since we both wanted to be together, it would be patronising / paternalistic of me to end the relationship "for her own good" if she said she was alright with it. So we kept going out, and my feelings towards her started to get more and more serious. A few weeks ago, I realised that I was happily on course to a Serious Relationship.
Anyway, whilst all this was going on, she started to get depressed, and stopped eating. A few days ago, she ended up in hospital because of it. We had a couple of conversations about how she felt she wasn't being fair on me, dragging me into her personal problems, and not being able to be a 'proper' girlfriend, whatever that means. I explained that her problems didn't get in the way of me wanting to be with her. She decided that wasn't enough to stop her feeling uncomfortable, and broke up with me.
My mind's kind of in a whirl. On the one hand, I totally respect her right to not be in a relationship that she is not comfortable being in, but on the other, I feel really patronised that she didn't let me decide whether or not the dynamics of the relationship were fair on me.