Topic: Re: Blog Thread IIIb : Look Who's Blogging Now (Read 252861 times)

Redball · « **Reply #2650 on:** 09 Jun 2012, 16:10 »

I think you're saying your grandpa has already gone on ahead?
Jace, can you give yourself permission to lose your composure, cry your eyes out? God knows I did in the last 17 months.

Jace · « **Reply #2651 on:** 09 Jun 2012, 16:38 »

Yeah, he passed on years before I was born.
The reason I can't lose my composure is because I'm at work and have been for the past couple evenings.

Patrick · « **Reply #2652 on:** 09 Jun 2012, 17:22 »

Watching grandparents go weighs on you heavily, everybody knows that. Talk to yr boss, take a day and just let loose, man, it'll do you some good.

Jace · « **Reply #2653 on:** 09 Jun 2012, 17:28 »

I have a full week of time off that I am taking starting next sunday. There will be fighting day and night and I'm really looking forward to that as it'll be a great stress release.

Lines · « **Reply #2654 on:** 09 Jun 2012, 20:17 »

Quote from: The Seldom Killer on 09 Jun 2012, 12:21

Just run through our wedding budget and it's come out at £4k tops ($6.1k). Mind you, I reckon I could probably halve that if we wanted to forego some of the nice stuff that's important to us. Mind you, the phrase "No, we're not bothering with that sort of nonsense" has crossed my lips a few times in recent months.

Just out of curiosity, what's the nice stuff?

The Seldom Killer · « **Reply #2655 on:** 09 Jun 2012, 23:35 »

We're having a Celidh band for our music where we could have done the music for practically nothing. As we're getting married in the morning and having the reception in the evening we've decided to orchestrate a picnic in between up on Burbage Moor in the Peak District. This has bumped up the transportation costs a fair bit. I could probably have arranged catering for the guests for around £300-400 but we decided to use a local restaurant to do it for us. Again this costs more but the food's really good and that's important to us. Finally I could have done the booze decently on the cheap but instead we went with buying in a couple of kegs from Sheffield's local breweries and while it's not that expensive, it costs a little more.

The bride is knitting her own wedding dress and that is costing dearly in time and frustration but is a massive saving in money. Not the point but it does count.

Lines · « **Reply #2656 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 06:29 »

Knitting her dress? COOL! If she lets you, you should totally post photos of it when she's done, I'd love to see it.

That sounds like it'd be a fun wedding to go to. And it's what you guys want, which is great. I've been to a few weddings where it felt like a wedding for the parents and not for the bride and groom and it just wasn't fun. (At least not for the groom and his friends, from what I could tell.)

valley_parade · « **Reply #2657 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 09:11 »

Ate a McGangbang last night.

I am giving credit to it for why I don't have a soul-crushing hangover today. However, I did wake up this morning to find I was still in full suit, aside from socks.

valley_parade · « **Reply #2658 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 09:43 »

Glad you asked!

It's a standard double cheeseburger from McDonalds, but you open it up and stick an entire McChicken in the middle.

Lines · « **Reply #2659 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 11:07 »

Whaaaaaaaaaat. The. Crap. Is that drunk people food? It sounds like drunk people food.

Patrick · « **Reply #2660 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 11:32 »

Oh man Shane you and I gotta be like twins or something, I did the same thing 2 days ago, baked as fuuuuuuuuck

Also ate another double cheeseburger with my meal

valley_parade · « **Reply #2661 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 12:40 »

Yeah since it was like 2:30 AM I supplied it with an egg mcmuffin.

Linds: Yes, I was very drunk last night.

Jace · « **Reply #2662 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 12:42 »

Its a McDouble with a McChicken inside it.

Double cheeseburgers have an extra piece of cheese and cost like $50 more than a McDouble.

valley_parade · « **Reply #2663 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 12:44 »

SORRY FOR CLASSING IT UP WITH ALL THAT CHEESE.

Welu · « **Reply #2664 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 14:05 »

Anyone here watch the Cinema Snob/Brad Jones? He does a series called "Brad Tries" where he has weird food and drink and on it he has done the McGangBang and the Mc10:35. The latter is named as such because it has to be ordered at breakfast transition time, an Egg McMuffin combined with a McDouble.

I have never tried either because I'm not a fan of McDonalds any way but some day I might if I'm hungover and at college, because McDonalds is less than a minute walk from the building.

valley_parade · « **Reply #2665 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 15:21 »

I saw the Brad Tries video the other day, and it popped into my drunken dome when I was in line.

Of course, our McDonalds has a limited breakfast menu after midnight, so I could've done double duty, but ehh.

Lines · « **Reply #2666 on:** 10 Jun 2012, 19:16 »

You guys are making me never want to eat McDonalds ever again. Not that I want to eat it very much anyways. (Except their sausage biscuits because, I don't know why, but they are like breakfast crack.)

schimmy · « **Reply #2667 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 01:17 »

Going to a friend's funeral today. This is the first funeral I've been to since I was in primary school. I can't really get my head around it, but I'm feeling really nervous for some reason.

How the hell does a 19 year old girl go from "The doctor says I have a heart condition" to having a heart attack in the space of two weeks?

Redball · « **Reply #2668 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 03:53 »

It may seem strange that I ask the same question about a spouse of four decades, a 28-year cancer survivor, who died of a stroke on the day we were to put her in hospice care. How can someone so close be so suddenly .... gone.

Welu · « **Reply #2669 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 04:34 »

The last funeral I went to was the first one I had attended since my granddad died when I was about fourteen. It was the mother of my boyfriend's close friend and it was really surreal. I had only met the woman once a couple of weeks before and she was so lovely. The death was unexpected and sudden so even for a funeral the mood was so heavy. I felt really nervous because I felt like I shouldn't have been there, but I wanted to support my my boyfriend's family and his friend because they were all so close.
I don't want to simplify it so much but just, it's never going to be pleasant and it's hard to not have a lot of questions.

Redball · « **Reply #2670 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 06:34 »

Most of the funerals I attend are those of acquaintances or relatives of acquaintances, and I expect to have an experience both somewhat sad and quite pleasant. The pleasure, sometimes during a memorial service, sometimes at a visitation, usually over food and drink after the service, comes from sharing stories about and around the deceased and sometimes a reunion of people who haven't seen one another for a long time. Might age make a difference? My father died when I was 24, and while I knew he was dying, I was still distraught when he went, the more so because we hadn't been close. The brother of my daughter's best childhood friend committed suicide. She was too distraught to return to college for several days and for years resented her mother for ordering her back. But when my wife died, I ended up emceeing a memorial, dry-eyed mostly, telling a few funny stories, introducing those who rose to speak, and chatted and laughed afterward.

Lines · « **Reply #2671 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 07:31 »

Schimmy - losing someone suddenly, especially when it's so close to your age, is surreal in the worst kind of way. It makes no sense and I don't think I understood what I was feeling before I went to the funeral for a friend last month. I'm sorry for your loss, I hope her friends and family can find peace soon.

Redball · « **Reply #2672 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 07:38 »

Quote from: Welu on 11 Jun 2012, 04:34

I felt really nervous because I felt like I shouldn't have been there, but I wanted to support my my boyfriend's family and his friend because they were all so close.

There's never a reason not to be there, unless you know you wouldn't be welcome. You're giving your presence. That's noticed and valued by the family.

The Seldom Killer · « **Reply #2673 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 08:29 »

Schimmy, for all of it's seeming breadth and incomprehensible vastness, biology and medicine are still very inaccurate, sciences. Alas, one of the few things that can be said with some absolute certainty is that these thing will continue to happen for a long time to come, such is the effect of a huge number of genetic and biological variables.
The year after leaving school a kid a couple of years down that I know of through other friends tried to dodge a rugby tackle and collided with the H posts. He was knocked out, never regained consciousness and died that night. Yet in comparison I've been knocked unconscious three time, had four cases of hypothermia, broken two bones suffered many illnesses and absorbed a lot of other damage alone the way. I'm no exception either, that's probably pretty normal as the human body is a pretty impressive self-repairing machine capable of amazing things. Unfortunately sometimes it isn't. I'd strongly recommend people to come to terms with that because the oft and unfulfilling answer to "Why?" is "just because". I realise that sounds cold and callous and it comes from a position afforded the comfort of distance. Better to focus on what you were fortunate enough to have rather than tilt against having lost it.

If you're nervous, that's normal, even later on in life it is uncomfortable and unsettling to have one's mortality challenged so abruptly.

lepetitfromage · « **Reply #2674 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 08:36 »

The last funeral I went to was for a friend of mine in college....she passed last July at the age of 26. No one said how she died, but it is presumed that it was suicide.

I was a total fucking mess. I miss her so much.

Someone I went to high school with died in a motorcycle accident last month. Was the kind of guy that everyone loved, had a daughter on the way. I just couldn't bring myself to go...I've been incredibly preoccupied with mortality lately. I need brain bleach. I really wish I could come to terms with it, but I mean....I get anxious when I think about not having time to buy stamps. I actually remember the first time I panicked about death. I was in elementary school and I was sitting in a recliner in the living room. Nothing really put the thought in my head except for my imagination but it got the best of me. I was clutching my knees and crying and my mom walked in and asked what was wrong. All I could come out with was "I don't want to die". She just looked at me and said "You're 8! You're not going to die for a very, very, very long time."

TSK: this is a tad bit late, but your wedding sounds like it's going to be awesome. I second the notion of a dress photo.

Omega Entity · « **Reply #2675 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 09:29 »

That's the thing with the human body - so strong in some ways, but so fragile in so many others. All it takes is an injury to the wrong place, and sometimes not even that in the case of people born with defects or abnormalities.

I believe it was this last spring that I found out that a girl my age (28) had died - I didn't have a lot of friends in compulsory school, and I didn't really know her, but I do remember that she was a quiet, sweet girl (I remembered her because she was one of the ones that -didn't- tease me - that, and my Grandfather's and father's building company had built her parents' house, where they still live).

Come to find out, she had been in the hospital the week before for pneumonia, had been released, and had gone to a doctor's appointment the day before and was told she was doing well. She opted to not go to a party with her parents, saying she wanted to recoup a bit before going back to work on the following Monday (she was a teacher). The parents talked to her on the phone in the afternoon, but when they came home they found her on the couch, gone.

You just don't know.

Jace · « **Reply #2676 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 15:45 »

Welp, that's that.
And she's gone.

Redball · « **Reply #2677 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 16:39 »

How're you doing? Easier, with time off?

Jace · « **Reply #2678 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 17:40 »

I'm doing pretty good. It happened slow enough that I was able to think about it and find a good place of acceptance. My family is really easy going, my mom left me voicemail saying she had news while I was asleep and my lady said it didn't sound like she was doing too badly. I joked that maybe nana had achieved godhood and now we'll all have to deal with her forever. My mom laughed when I told her that as well.

Redball · « **Reply #2679 on:** 11 Jun 2012, 17:53 »

Were you surprised by your ability to joke and your mom's ability to laugh?

Jace · « **Reply #2680 on:** 12 Jun 2012, 05:37 »

Nah, I (and by further extent, my family) generally deal with things by joking. Even when it is unjokeable topics.

lepetitfromage · « **Reply #2681 on:** 12 Jun 2012, 05:44 »

Humor helps in a lot of dark places- one could argue that it's more prevalent there than anywhere else. After all, laughter is the best medicine.

It's tough to know what to say, but I'm glad you're faring better than you were.

schimmy · « **Reply #2682 on:** 12 Jun 2012, 12:46 »

I never expected to say this, but the funeral was really good. A number of people gave some really touching speeches. A couple of the speeches were heart breaking - three of her closest friends essentially broke down and cried in front of everyone, but they all managed to say some really sweet things. The other speeches (from her boyfriend, a friend of mine, and her cousin) were kind of the opposite - rather than saying how terrible it was to have lost her, they shared some amazing stories about her life, some of which were very funny. I left the ceremony feeling actually quite happy. She had a great life, was having the time of her life at uni, and with her boyfriend, and her death was so sudden that she never even knew it was coming - so no fear, no worry, no pain. Just happiness and then nothing. I hope when I go people can say that about me.

It was really inspiring seeing how many people turned up, as well. The crematorium was so packed that maybe two dozen people had to stand at the back, because there wasn't enough space for everyone to sit down.

I'm not entirely sure how I didn't cry. I genuinely don't remember the last time I cried - I don't think I've done it since I was a child. I was so close though. Closer than I can remember having ever been.

On the topic of humour in dark places, her boyfriend said something that totally caught me off guard, and I didn't believe he'd said it until my friend confirmed it. We were stood outside the crematorium immediately after the ceremony, making the rounds saying hello to everyone, when a noise came from the back of the crematorium. Upon hearing this noise, the only thing he said was "Well that's her done."

Papersatan · « **Reply #2683 on:** 12 Jun 2012, 14:56 »

I have some plants on my little balcony. Sugar snap peas, a tomato, and I had morning glories growing and they suddenly started doing very badly. It looked like they were getting trampled. Turns out they were.

This is Henri.

He loves to chill on my porch and dig in the container that used to have morning glories and eat left over bird seed and drink water from my water the plants bucket. Sometimes he just stretches out on the railing and naps. I'm not sure where this relationship is going, but I think I like it.

Lines · « **Reply #2684 on:** 13 Jun 2012, 19:21 »

Oh man, I am so sorry for your loss.

Redball · « **Reply #2685 on:** 13 Jun 2012, 19:39 »

If it helps, tell us more about your friend and how you're dealing with such a terrible loss.

lepetitfromage · « **Reply #2686 on:** 13 Jun 2012, 19:49 »

I'm so sorry...it really does feel like the people that leave us unexpectedly are usually some of the most amazing people we know. It fucking sucks.

Omega Entity · « **Reply #2687 on:** 13 Jun 2012, 20:14 »

My condolences. 'I'm sorry' seems like it's always an incredible understatement, in situations like this.

Patrick · « **Reply #2688 on:** 16 Jun 2012, 15:26 »

Shit, pal. I'm really sorry to hear of yr loss. It looks like everybody's experiencing some pretty heavy losses lately. Hugs all around for y'all!

I've actually been having a great time of things for the last straight three days, so maybe sharing some of that sunshine will be distracting. It started on Wednedsay. Had a great open mic, a girl I've known as an acquaintance for a couple years finally decided to come out to see what it was all about. I asked her to name a couple songs she could sing in their original keys, and I taught em to the guys I was jamming with. They both learned suuuper quick (shit like "Billy Jean") and we all instantly gelled for the occasion. Fuckin magic! She told me she would most certainly be returning. Awesome!

Thursday, I had a show at the same bar. Just like I had anticipated, all 3 other bands were amazing! We got a fat ego boost by the other local band making us switch our opening position for their closing position at the last minute (which we did) because we "are pretty much a failsafe draw." That is super nice of them to say. And it actually worked too, which was nice haha. Then I went to an afterparty with some friends and a girl I'm digging. Came home, had great sex, went to sleep, woke up the next morning, had great sex again, played a really fun game of golf.

Last night, I played at a coffee shop, got paid the standard $40 and made an extra $20 in tips, and proceeded to get a 12-pack of Sam Adams and smoke marijuana and engage in tasteless joke exchanges with some friends.

Today I'm going on a bike ride to a park with a bunch of people carrying lightsabers. We will battle in the park, then go to the bar and get our drank on.

Tomorrow, I'm going flying with my dad. Whoooo!

Basically my whole week rules and I wish everybody else's week were better.

Zingoleb · « **Reply #2689 on:** 16 Jun 2012, 19:06 »

People need to like, stop dying, like, right now. I'm sorry for everyone who's having to deal with things.

My life has been up and down, though I've not been very depressed lately which is good (it turns out that the worse my sleep was the worse my depression was, and any caffeine in my body disrupted my ability to sleep in a major way - cutting out caffeine is making me feel a hundred times better). I'm back to sex work which is, well, not great, but it's money - and I've booked the tickets to get to Boston and NY. I'll figure something out to get from NY to Seattle again. I'm tricksy like that.

BeoPuppy · « **Reply #2690 on:** 17 Jun 2012, 12:54 »

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jR371V3XSN8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YuERjvIAEWs

I got a black belt today.

Is it cold in here? · « **Reply #2691 on:** 17 Jun 2012, 17:51 »

Congratulations!

Yesterday I combined a 350 mile round trip drive with a full day at the other end and it was completely worth it. An aviation museum had a surprisingly large group of surviving SR-71 maintenance and flight crew members.

Redball · « **Reply #2692 on:** 17 Jun 2012, 19:09 »

Quote from: Is it cold in here? on 17 Jun 2012, 17:51

Congratulations!

Yesterday I combined a 350 mile round trip drive with a full day at the other end and it was completely worth it. An aviation museum had a surprisingly large group of surviving SR-71 maintenance and flight crew members.

Did you have a connection to the Blackbird?

valley_parade · « **Reply #2693 on:** 17 Jun 2012, 21:12 »

Even if not, they were super, super cool pieces of machinery. I'd be stoked on it, too.

Akima · « **Reply #2694 on:** 18 Jun 2012, 02:18 »

Quote from: BeoPuppy on 17 Jun 2012, 12:54

I got a black belt today.

Well done. Jujutsu?

BeoPuppy · « **Reply #2695 on:** 18 Jun 2012, 08:21 »

Yup. It was a fun experience and I'm super happy. I'd recommend it to everyone.

Patrick · « **Reply #2696 on:** 18 Jun 2012, 12:52 »

Quote from: Is it cold in here? on 17 Jun 2012, 17:51

Congratulations!

Yesterday I combined a 350 mile round trip drive with a full day at the other end and it was completely worth it. An aviation museum had a surprisingly large group of surviving SR-71 maintenance and flight crew members.

Did you by chance meet a guy named Brian Shul? He's an aviation author who tours the country frequently, and he used to fly SR-71s and take his own private photos while on board.

Welu · « **Reply #2697 on:** 21 Jun 2012, 12:52 »

Gonna tell why I'm feeling awesome by copy and pasting a tweet, with hashtag.

Conquered a driving goal. Cooked a proper meal from scratch. Helped a doggy get home. Passed my movement goal. #stuffididtoday

Patrick · « **Reply #2698 on:** 21 Jun 2012, 15:20 »

Fuck yeah you did. Samples plz

dr. nervioso · « **Reply #2699 on:** 21 Jun 2012, 17:25 »

Lately, I have wanted to write some angry guitar music. Unfortunately, I sold my guitar a few years ago and I have money to buy a decent guitar. As a result, I had to really concentrate not to make angry faces or gestures when I went out tonight.

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